Love and happiness!!

Is really mending a broken heart the answer to pain caused by loving someone? Is it possible to just forget how deeply you fell for someone and move on  in life whether alone, or with someone? Well is it possible to even love again? If yes, possible to love that deeply? Ahmed Faraz says:

"Mohobat kay baad mohobat mumkin hai Faraz,
Mager toot kar chahna sirf ek baar hota hai"

Meaning, it is possible to love someone after someone, but loving someone more than yourself, that deep, only once!!

Happiness indeed is knowing that a broken heart can mend but truth lies in the fact that broken hearts can never be the same again..the cracks, the scars even though hidden, shall always exist..I know we must not rely on the past but it will always be a part of us and we should learn from it..And even though we escape and run from it, it shall always remind us of who we are and what we did..Isn't this Allah's biggest way of telling us that what we shall sow is what we shall reap? Isn't this His way of telling us, you are answerable for your deeds and what you do is being seen and/or written somewhere and that a day will come when you will be required to justify your actions? How silly of us not to be afraid of Him who is above all else! How silly of us to just do sins, one after the other and rely on His mercy when He tells us that you will be punished for your wrong doings! How silly of us..

I often tend to divert from what I am writing just because as I write, my heart tends to ponder around various thoughts and feelings and I keep typing whatever comes to thought..So moving away from this religious thought back to my original thought, are we capable of loving someone after someone that intensely? I believe no!! Should we still attempt to love? Yes! Love is the only one language that needs no language, no vocabulary, no minds..its just about love..and love is all about giving someone everything you have..
I read an article that said love is keeping yourself after the other. I beg to differ because for me, love is about giving that person yourself without losing yourself. If someone asks me to change myself on the name of love, change myself because they like me a certain way, do they really love me? Why can't they accept me the way I am? Don't I deserve to be who I am? We should take a moment once in a while, stop our life and reflect if we are who we are, who we want to be or we are who others want us to be..You know what the answer should be!!

What happens when someone lets our expectations down? When we give them everything, they promise us a lot too and when we need them, we can't even find their shadows. I don't have much to say on this except one small thing for anyone who believes people like me who give in everything into a relationship will last forever:

"Nothing is permanent in this wicked world, not even our sorrows-Charlie Chaplin".. 
At no point in life should you take love for granted because unlike pain, love isn't a gift, its a blessing. Blessings when not taken care of, when not appreciated are taken away easily. Love can be and has been taken away from all those who take people giving it for granted. When someone is showing you love, appreciate it in the form of returning it back, for they shall not return if gone away!! Always remember, love unexpressed is love denied.. So love those who love you today or least appreciate it because tomorrow, you might crave for them, want their shoulder to cry on or for a good night's sleep, but you won't find it, AND THERE IS NOTHING YOU WILL BE ABLE TO DO ABOUT IT!!

Love is the answer to life and happiness in it!! :-)

Change

Shikayat To Faqat Badalte Hue LehjoN Se Hai...!!!!!
Hawa,Patte Aur Mausam To Kabhi Dil Torra Nahi karte

The two lines above, quoted from a poem my friend wrote mean that: 
"I complain over changing behavior of people, 
wind, leaves and weather don't break hearts after all"

I wonder why we are able to accept the change in our lives but can't accept even a small change in people we know? I guess because the changes in life are enforced upon us and we can't do anything about most of them but well, neither can we do something about the change in people!! Is it always their fault that they changed? Ever thought we might have played a role in their change, maybe gave them less than they expected or weren't there for them when they needed us!! Should we change a relationship because one of us changed in it? I think the ideal answer is no but the practical one, the one that mostly happens is yes!!

A friend yesterday told me you're talking as if you have a huge heart..To be very honest, buddy, as a matter of fact, I do..Maybe some years down the road I didn't but today, well today I do..
A heart huge enough to accept people in my life with pasts that aren't pleasing in any way..
A heart huge enough to accept people who have done wrong yet I forgive and move on..
A heart huge one to be there for those who don't bother saying hi in what seems to be ages..Only when they are troubled, burdened, hurt, they remember they have a friend, Rahim, who told them he will be there to listen no matter the situation of life..
And today if I am loved and respected by those who have understood me, its because of this ability to love unconditionally..to give my best and everything in a relationship even when people seem to do less I guess..So yes buddy, I have a huge heart!!

I guess I will always be this guy that I am..But coming back to change, yes once a relationship changes in my life with someone, it is very hard to go back that way..I just wonder why is it like that..Probably because of my belief..and that is 

"It is better to build relationships than to repair them because they are like mirrors..marks are always evident"

Why a silent heart?

Who says free things are for everyone? Love is free but not for everyone..Some are deprived of their parent's love, some of their family's love, some from their friend's love, some from the love of that one special one but unluckiest are those who are deprived of their own love!

My last statement might have seemed weird and you might be wondering how can someone not love themselves..one simple answer is if one is unable to forgive themselves for a sin they have committed..we all have sins attached to our souls that we would want to remove..Whether it is a severe sin such as rape or murder or the tiny ones in regard like stealing..Well a sin is a sin but definitely the magnitude defers..
"hurting someone", whether we do it intentionally or without knowledge..isn't it as equal to murder? The only difference here is we kill someone's feelings and there, we kill them literally..so in fact hurting someone is worse because they die within and have to live with it every single day of their life..So just how can one live with the fact that they are responsible for someone's pain or broken heart? It is very easy for someone to say "I don't love you".."I never loved you".."I lied..I was confused".."I have found someone better".. but for the other person, it may mean the world sinking..It may mean their reason of smiling has died..This reminds me of a two liner in urdu (Jabse lagi hai chot dil ki gehrayion main, muskurate maine khud ko tasveeron main bhi nahin dekha) that in english translates as: "Ever since she has hurt my heart so deep, I haven't seen myself smiling even in photos"..I often ask myself, how can someone just do that and continue their life?..And then I read some where that the starting point for that is by forgiving yourself which for me is easier said than done! And it is very hard whether you're on either side of the table..How can you live on after the one person who meant life to you is no longer in your life, or at least isn't in that way? or How can you live on after knowing you stabbed a heart to death, a heart that beat just for you? It takes an incredible amount of self power out of someone to do that, and trust me, It takes a lot of self power..just to move on, especially if your love was soo true and pure! ..Paulo Coelho, my favorite writer says: "If you are brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello"..


There is a lot to write for me but just not today..
I hope to continue, soon! :-)

Something new

Umm so my first post here..and I'd like to start by clarifying how I kept my blogger name as life..well I was just trying to create a blog and in that experiment I had put the title as life and there it was..and for a good amount of time I kept searching so that I could edit it..I finally have managed!

I guess everything happens for a reason..for example, I started this blog to write about life..write about my life so far and its experiences and see how the blog name as well appeared to be that..I guess there is nothing after all that should bother us if we see it from a different view..

I also started this blog after reading one of my friend's blogs this evening..she is an amazing writer though she doesn't wanna believe that..but, I'd like to steal a line from her intro blog because I just loved it..:

"My ordinary life is different from everyone else's and I just want to share it without getting judged or stereotyped..So here's to something new!"

So I guess this is it..I would have loved to make this first post better but, at least it is a start..

Life as it is to me through words from the core of my heart!