We all have that one person or the few who were once strangers and then became close or perhaps very close and are now once again, strangers!
It is scary to accept such a situation isn't it? I know and I totally get that but it is good to accept rather than live in a bubble. Perhaps some people aren't just meant to be ours. Yeah, took me a long time to accept that...some people aren't just meant to be!!!
A song, a picture, a poem, a quote, an action by someone like a walking style; such little things bring back the memory of someone we cease to forget. I came across a quote this week that just touched me and told me a lot. Nan Goldin said "I used to think that I could never lose anyone if I photographed them enough. In fact, my pictures show me how much I've lost." Being a photographer, I could relate to the quote and just how deep the message is. When I turn back to the photos I have taken over the years, I see how much I have lived, how much I have lost and how much I tend not to remember as part of my life today yet one single image brings back that moment. Whether it is of a place I visited, a someone who is a no-one today or has faded or of a particular moment, my heart whispers to me the feel I had back then. Indeed, a picture speaks a thousand words!!!
I have come a long way to learn that unconditional love, however bitter and sour the pain is, it is better because the pinch of broken expectations is way more painful. In life, we shouldn't expect of others no matter how close they get because reality is, we all grow as individuals and whenever our close ones do, it will be painful for us; after all humans don't like change. One of the most difficult things to do has the highest reward too and that when you don't expect anything in return, you love deeply and smile from your heart even after that source of light; that one person that made your day by just showing their face; the person that made you feel alive; the person without whom your life seemed incomplete; that one person leaves you and goes very far. Pain is inevitable but suffering is upon us!!!
Lastly, I would like end with two lines written by one of my most favorite poets, Ahmed Faraz.
"Tera na ho saka toh marjaunga Faraz,
Kitna khubsoorat woh jhoot bolta tha"
meaning;
"If I don't get to be yours, I will die Faraz,
How charmingly she used to lie"
Peace!
Cheers!
Champ!!
